Will Smith Breaks His Silence on 7-Year Separation from Jada Pinkett Smith and Bombshell Memoir

The Oscar-winner recently shared his thoughts on Jada’s forthcoming memoir.

Breaking his silence. Will Smith is speaking out and sharing his thoughts about his seven-year separation from Jada Pinkett Smith , and her forthcoming bombshell memoir, Worthy .

In a recent profile interview with the New York Times , Jada opens up about many of the revelations made in her forthcoming tome — including her past suicidal inclinations, depression, the use of hallucinogens to help explore her mental health issues, and her unique marital situation with Will.

The memoir is a raw, bare and candid exploration of the inner demons she’s battled, and Smith told the New York Times , in an email, that reading the book reminded him of how strong his wife truly is.

“When you’ve been with someone for more than half of your life, a sort of emotional blindness sets in,” the Oscar-winning actor wrote. “You can all too easily lose your sensitivity to their hidden nuances and subtle beauties.”

Last week, the 52-year-old actress sat down with Today ‘s Hoda Kotb for an intimate discussion about her upcoming memoir. During the NBC News prime-time special, Jada broke down the many startling revelations from her book, including her marriage to Will. Jada shared that she and Will have been separated for seven years .

“Yes, it was not a divorce on paper, but it was a divorce,” Jada told Hoda.

The Girls Trip star disclosed that she and Will, 55, have been leading “completely separate lives” since 2016, even though they never officially divorced.

Through the years rumors swirled about the couple, but Jada said, “I can definitely understand why there would be misunderstandings, but none of it’s true.”

The separation began seven years ago, as Jada confirmed during the interview, making it a long-standing arrangement that they have successfully kept private from the public.

When asked why they chose to maintain this arrangement, Jada said, “I think just not being ready yet. Still trying to figure out between the two of us how to be in a partnership, and in regards to how do we present that to people, you know? And we hadn’t figured that out.”

“I think by the time we got to 2016, we were just exhausted with trying. I think we were both kind of just still stuck in our fantasy of what we thought the other person should be,” Jada said, adding that she made a promise to herself and Will to never allow their marriage to result in a divorce. “I made a promise that there will never be a reason for us to get a divorce. We will work through whatever. And I just haven’t been able to break that promise.”

Divorce, at least at the present time, is off the table. “We don’t want to,” Jada said. “We love our family. And we love each other. It’s more of a life partnership. Ten years from now, Hoda, who knows?”

Worthy will be available wherever books are sold on Oct. 17.

Will Smith’s 3 Children: All About Jaden, Willow and Trey

Sophie Dodd is a freelance writer for PEOPLE. She previously worked as an editorial assistant at PEOPLE from 2018 to 2022.

Will Smith’s life got flipped-turned upside down when the rising rapper shot to stardom in 1990 as the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air — and just two years later, everything changed once again when he became a dad for the first time.

The King Richard star has three kids: sons Trey, 31, and Jaden, 25, plus daughter Willow, 23. All three of them have followed in his footsteps, pursuing careers in the entertainment industry.

Smith welcomed his first son, Trey, in 1992 with then-wife Sheree Zampino. While his connection with Trey grew strained after divorcing Zampino in 1995, the father and son have since rebuilt their relationship.

In 1997, the rapper wed actress-singer Jada Pinkett Smith, and the pair welcomed their first child together, son Jaden, the following July. Two years later, they welcomed daughter Willow in October 2000.

From rebuilding his relationship with Trey to how Willow changed his parenting style, the Oscar winner hasn’t shied away from opening up about “the real weight of parenting” and the ways in which his children have pushed him to be the best version of himself.

In November 2022, all three kids supported Smith at the premiere of his movie Emancipation in Los Angeles. Trey, Jaden, and Willow were dressed to the nines for photos with their dad on the red carpet. The following month, Smith shared on the All The Smoke podcast that he’s in his “greatest period of fatherhood.”

Smith shot an episode of Red Table Talk with his children a month later. Before sitting down at the round table, he decided to film all his kids arriving at the house — a TikTok trend that determines who is always early and who is always late. Willow was labeled “the early bird,” as she arrived 30 minutes early. Trey was named the “most dependable son,” as he arrived 15 minutes early. And Jaden was named “Mr. Time is a Construct,” as he arrived roughly an hour late.

Major family news made headlines in October 2023 when Pinkett Smith revealed that she and Smith have been living “separate lives” since 2016. However, the couple are not divorced on paper.

“We’re still figuring it out,” she told PEOPLE. “A lot has happened. The thing about relationships is that it’s constantly moving. Relationships are, it’s an organism. It’s its own thing. It’s constantly shifting and constantly moving. There’s a lot that’s transpired in the last two years, and so we’ve been doing some really heavy-duty work together.”

Here’s everything to know about Will Smith’s three kids.

Trey Smith, 31

Smith’s first child, Willard Carroll “Trey” Smith III, was born on Nov. 11, 1992, in L.A. He is the only child of Smith and Zampino; the former pair divorced in 1995 and later developed an amicable co-parenting relationship.

“Divorce was the ultimate failure for me,” Smith told Pinkett Smith on her Facebook Watch series Red Table Talk. “I’ve been hurt a lot in my adult life, but I don’t think anything touches the failure of getting divorced from my 2-year-old son’s mother.”

After a few years of being “absent,” the father and son reconnected, with Smith recalling on Red Table Talk that “as soon as Trey was ready, he came looking for his father.”

In a video shared on Instagram in 2018, the Bad Boys actor reflected on the evolution of their relationship, emotionally revealing Trey had just told him that he was his “best friend.”

“It has not always been like this between Trey & I. We STRUGGLED FOR YEARS after my Divorce from his Mother. He felt betrayed & abandoned,” the actor captioned the clip.

He added, “It is a Wild Blessing to recover & restore a Loving Relationship with My Beautiful Son! @treysmith0011.”

Despite their once challenged relationship, Smith says he immediately felt the joy of fatherhood when his son was born. Speaking to Pinkett Smith about Trey’s birth, Smith recounted, “I brought him home, we put him in the bassinet, it was like stark terror.” He continued, “I’m totally responsible for this life. I couldn’t stop going and checking. I just cried so hard. It makes me teary right now.”

The rapper dedicated a 1997 rendition of Bill Withers’ classic “Just the Two of Us” to Trey, which saw the then-5-year-old make his Hollywood debut alongside his dad in the track’s 1998 music video. The proud dad later authored a children’s book of the same name, which chronicled their relationship.

Young Trey next joined his dad on All of Us, a 2003 sitcom that also saw cameos from younger brother Jaden.

Trey frequently shares his love for his siblings and parents — including “bonus mom” Pinkett Smith — on Instagram, posting sweet birthday tributes or hilarious throwback photos of Jaden.

These days, Trey is busy working as a DJ and released his first album, Best Wishes, in 2020.

During an episode of Red Table Talk, which aired in October 2022, Zampino revealed that Trey “didn’t feel loved” by her as a child.

“One of the things that my son said to me when he started to do the work [on forgiveness], one of the things that came up for him, he felt that he wasn’t loved,” she said. “I said, ‘Oh my God, your father loved you, what are you talking about?’ He said, ‘I’m not talking about him, I’m talking about you.’ “

Zampino explained that Trey felt like she didn’t care about his feelings growing up.

“Maybe eight months ago, doing my work, I said to him, ‘You’re so right. I didn’t care about your feelings, because I didn’t care about mine,’ ” she shared.

Smith celebrated his son’s 31st birthday in November 2023 by posting a throwback video on Instagram of him talking about welcoming his son more than three decades ago. “Happy Bday, T-Ball. You are responsible for some of the highest experiences of my life. You introduced me to the true definition of Love! I met God in your eyes,” he wrote.

Jaden Smith, 25

Jaden Smith was born in Malibu, California, on July 8, 1998. He got an early start in Hollywood when he joined his dad and big brother on All of Us in the early 2000s. Jaden then made his big screen debut alongside Smith in 2006’s The Pursuit of Happyness, which earned him an MTV Movie & TV Award for best breakthrough performance. Among his many other roles, Jaden is perhaps most famous for his turn as The Karate Kid.

One of his less favorable roles came in 2013’s After Earth, which bombed at the box office and earned the actor and his dad negative media attention — which Smith has reflected on as one of his biggest regrets as a father.

After Earth was an abysmal box office and critical failure,” the father of three wrote in his 2021 memoir Will. “And what was worse was that Jaden took the hit. Fans and the press were absolutely vicious; they said and printed things about Jaden that I refuse to repeat. Jaden had faithfully done everything that I’d instructed him to do, and I had coached him into the worst public mauling he’d ever experienced.”

“We never discussed it, but I know he felt betrayed. He felt misled, and he lost his trust in my leadership,” Smith continued. “At fifteen years old, when Jaden asked about being an emancipated minor, my heart shattered. He ultimately decided against it, but it sucks to feel like you’ve hurt your kids.”

While Jaden has continued to act — he starred in 2020’s Life in a Year alongside Cara Delevingne — he’s leaned further into his music career, releasing his debut studio album Syre in 2017 and earning a 2022 Grammy nomination as a featured artist on longtime friend Justin Bieber’s album Justice. To celebrate his son’s music hitting 100 million streams on Spotify, Smith parodied Jaden’s “Icon” music video, hilariously recreating a shot-for-shot version of the clip.

“It is a delicious gift to a parent to admire his children. Keep Doin’ You!” Smith captioned the video.

Jaden turned 25 in July 2023 — and his dad poked fun at him for not having kids yet.

“Happy Birthday, J-Diggy. It’s crazy that you’re 25. When I was 25 I had a 2 yr. old… I’m just sayin’… Wha’s up? What you doin’ over there?” Smith joked on Instagram.

Willow Smith, 23

Born on October 31, 2000, in L.A., Willow Smith — who goes by the monosyllabic WILLOW musically — has followed in both of her famous parents’ footsteps as a singer, songwriter and actress.

After first starring alongside her dad in 2007’s I Am Legend, Willow joined mom Pinkett Smith as a voice actor on Madagascar 2 the following year.

At just nine years old, Willow released the viral hit “Whip My Hair” and quickly signed with JAY-Z’s label Roc Nation, becoming the youngest artist to do so. By the next year, she was touring internationally with Bieber. Ultimately, though, the sudden fame and the stress that accompanied it was too much for the then-10-year-old, and in 2012, she defiantly shaved her head.

“It was the perfect way to rebel,” she later told PEOPLE of the decision. “I was super young, and I had a dream, but all I really wanted to do was sing and I didn’t equate that with all the business and the stress that ended up coming with it.” She added, “I was just like, ‘Whoa, this is not the life that I want.’ “

While Smith initially ignored Willow’s request to stop touring, he changed his mind, and his entire parenting style, after seeing her shaved head for the first time.

“I’m looking and I’m like, ‘Got it. I got it, baby. I’m sorry. I apologize. You can stop,’ ” Smith recalled, adding, “It was terrifying. I felt like I had been texting looking at my phone and stepped out into the street in front of a bus and Willow snatched me back. As strange as it sounds, in that moment I discovered feelings. Because of my childhood, because of the way I was raised . I didn’t care about how I felt so I damn sure didn’t care about how somebody else felt.”

He continued, “My parenting style changed in that moment . That was a major transition for me in my life. I feel like Willow saved me from what could have been tragic in my life.”

Since then, Willow has continued to work in the music industry, releasing five studio albums.

In October 2022, Willow released her latest album, Coping Mechanism. She announced the release on Instagram, posting a clip of the music video for “ur a stranger,” which features Paris Jackson.

The two-time Emmy nominee also co-hosts Red Table Talk with her mom and grandmother, Adrienne Banfield-Noris. On several episodes of the candid talk show, Willow has opened up about her love and sex life, revealing herself to be polyamorous.

“I would definitely want one man and one woman,” Willow said. “I feel like I could be polyfidelitous with those two people.”

In April 2023, Willow performed at Coachella. Her brother Jaden also made an appearance on stage.